4 Steps to Finding Your Smile. We’ve all had our moments where we just did not have any ounce of smile left in us. It seems as if everything in the day just did not go as planned, or maybe we are just in our feelings. To be honest, I have those days quite often. But why though? Why can’t things just work out how I want them to with no question? Like is that so hard to do?
For years, I have struggled with the thought of being and feeling truly happy. I have dealt with breakups from relationships, disconnect from family members, rejections from job opportunities, financial instabilities, and so many other things. As humans, we have a lot on our shoulders and it can become difficult at times to find a way to smile through our internal conflicts. I am a person that actually loves to smile and love the fact that smiles can be contagious. But in the sense when we are not feeling our best self, how can we overcome and smile through it? This may be easily said than done, but it is possible and I challenge you to take me up on this offer that will assist in finding your smile.
DIG DEEP INTO those feelings
I say it is better to go through those internal conflicts and to dig deeper into them. Find out what is causing you to feel adversely and why you think it has such a big impact on you. Could it be something that you have been dealing with as an adolescent? Are these feelings drawn from something recent or am I just all in my feelings for no reason? Finding the root cause of your unhappiness is one way to gear yourself in the right direction of healing.
For me, it is easier to talk it out with a friend or a neutral party. Sometimes I can’t see things clearly because of those internal conflicts and it may be hard for me to pinpoint where it all began. Having a neutral party to talk to can definitely benefit you in the long run. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone about what you are going through. It isn’t healthy to keep things bottled up inside because one day it will all come out. And it may come out on the wrong person. I am totally guilty of doing that. But I like to learn from my mistakes and make the conscience decision to not go back down that road.
Learn to accept things the way they are
Easy right? Absolutely not! This is definitely a skill learned. By accepting things the way they are, you must also accept the fact that you can not control everything. We will talk about control later. So lets start by realizing that not every situation will be the same. You will need to take this advice on a case by case scenario. There will be good in every situation, even though you may not see if right away, there is good in it. Learn to be ok with how things are naturally flowing. Its ok to just let it flow…(in my Toni Braxton song voice).
If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.Lao Tzu
Stop being mad at things you can not control
Now this is one thing I REALLY had an issue with. I will admit, I am a control freak! When things don’t go my way, I would usually have an issue with it. I would get so caught up in the why’s and how’s but never realize that maybe it really wasn’t in my control in the first place. Why should I be mad at something that I have no control of? The result will still be the result with or without my help…so why stress it? Some things are not meant for you to control, so step aside and allow things to happen as they may. I can’t control the way a person is going to feel about me, nor can I control the decisions someone makes about me. If God wanted me to be in control of that situation, I would be. Its as simple as that! So again, why I am allowing myself to form this negative energy simply because I can not control the situation? That sounds completely insane to me!
If we are peaceful, if we are happy, we can smile and blossom like a flower, and everyone in our family, our entire society, will benefit from our peace.Thich Nhat Hanh
Positive vibes only
What type of energy do you think you attract when you are not at your very best self? What type of energy would you prefer to be around? Personally, I want to always be around positive energy and want to exude that same energy. Positive energy always helps to ensure my mood is on point. Think about the things I have mentioned in the blog post and try to implement them into your everyday life. Before making a hast decision, take a quick breather, think it out, then respond. What type of response and or action would your inner self want to hear from you? Keeping your mind set on positive energy, positive vibes, you will find your inner peace and be able to conquer anything in your way. Smile before it, smile through it, smile after it!
What will you do to find your smile?